The Knock: Free advice for all it’s worth

Back when taverns were dark and everyone was a regular, a bartender’s knock after the drinks were set out meant the round was on the house. In that spirit, this is an occasional recovery advice column no one is paying for (but I do accept tips). You can submit your queries here.

This is an extension of The Sober Questioning series in The Cut.

How long should I be sober before I have a baby?

When we are newly sober we are cracking open a heart — maybe for the first time, maybe the 20th, but the feeling is the same. We have a chance to love big and without restrictions.

When should I leave my alcoholic partner??

I was willing to give a lot to a relationship, but what could I give to anyone if I basically disappeared?

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